A Life to Tell

Jumat sore, di kantor. Rasanya hari-hari di tim yang baru belom pernah sesibuk ini sebelumnya. Beberapa business case yang harus segera diselesaikan untuk proyek yang saya pimpin. Saya harus cari slot bersama Mr. finance manager, duduk bareng dan menyetujui setiap angka, sebelom propose project to the board. Ini bukan perkara mudah, buat saya. Tapi tampaknya, dia juga kecapean. Kami pun memutuskan untuk rehat sebentar. Menuju Lipton Cafe di lantai 6.

Sambil menikmati Chicken Pie, dia memulai percakapan,

“So, what’s the plan for weekend, Yessi?”
“I haven’t really planned it yet, but I think I’ll go out with some friends of mine, maybe playing badminton, taking pictures, just..having fun”
“Friends? Don’t you have boyfriend?”
“Hahaha, I told you once… I don’t have one”
“You’ve got to be kidding me! Why? What’s the issue? Isn’t it easy for you to find a guy here?”
“Well, it might seem easy but it’s not. It is difficult for me to find someone with same faith as mine”
“What? Why? You mean, religion?”
“Yeap..
“Yessi my dear.. religion is something made by human being. God is one. Why’d you need the guy to be same religion? Are you saying that you’ll only get married to someone with same religion as you are?”
“Well, I’d prefer to call it faith, rather than religion. But OK, if you have to call it religion, then tell me, how do I marry someone who doesn’t have same religion as mine? What if–supposed you have a son who’s fallen into a girl, they’re both madly in love, but then this girl doesn’t have the same faith as your son or your family?”
“That’s not an issue for me.. After marriage, my son’s life is on his hand. How long will he spend time with me? 2 weeks a year! One week in New Year and another one for another festive. How will this so called religion matters to you and my big family? Yessi.. See it from this perspective.. Why do you work so hard? Why do I need a house for my family? Why do you purchase expensive clothes? Why you have to earn money? What matters, in the end of the day, is your true happiness. If you are happy with someone, and he’s a good human being, go for him. You are the one accountable for your life, not others. Decision is yet to be taken by you. “

Sampai disana, saya udah nggak konsen lagi mendengarkan. Saya bermain dengan sendok es krim di depan saya. Seandainya saja semudah itu. Seandainya saja saya bisa bilang dengan gamblang bahwa gambaran sebuah rumah tangga dalam benak saya,  sama sekali bukan seperti yang beliau bilang. Bahwa diatas cinta dan mimpi tentang masa depan yang kita bangun bersama pasangan hidup kita nanti, pondasi kokohnya harus ada.  Keyakinan yang sama.

Ah, saya pusing. Kemudian memutuskan untuk tidak membahasnya lebih lanjut. Hal besar seperti keyakinan, rasanya sayang jika didiskusikan hanya sepintas lalu, di meja kafetaria.